Janet Mock on Beyoncé’s feminism.
We can be sexual, sexy and flawless while advocating and fighting and educating and uplifting and critiquing and challenging and giving and everything.
Here’s the thing. The problem is not when female celebrities’ sexuality exists. It’s when her sexuality exists on her own terms. When she is in control of it. Men can be sexy. They don’t have to take off their clothes to be sexy either, but vice versa, if they do take off their clothes, they do not get shamed or ridiculed for it. The problem is not the existence of female sexuality. The problem is female sexuality existing according to a woman’s own terms, and not a man’s. Men also do not want to acknowledge and admit that women simply have power where they do not. Female sexuality is very powerful. More powerful than male sexuality. What I find oddly hilarious though, is that men are the ones giving us this power through their desires for our bodies, but yet simultaneously are angry we have that kind of power and so shame us for it while wanting it at the same time. It’s so silly. I will never understand this whole “girls who respect themselves” argument. I like to look sexy as fuck. And I respect myself. Having respect for myself is what gives me the confidence to wear whatever the fuck I want regardless of men’s shitty opinions of me. Men want to objectify us, want us to be sexy, but then want to villify us for being too attractive, or too sexy…lol. To this day, I will not ever date a man who calls other women sluts and whores. There is no male equivalent to those words. None. Think about that.